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When the Marriage Hurts
Dear Annie: When I married my husband, I was completely inexperienced and unaware of his interest in kink. Six months into our marriage, a woman contacted me claiming to be one of his submissives. She said she couldn't live with the guilt of me not knowing. I had just found out I was pregnant, and the stress led to a miscarriage.
We went to ...Read more

Asking Eric: Friend courts danger by feeding wildlife in her backyard
Dear Eric: A friend of mine is a lovely woman, and a real animal lover. The problem is that she lives near some woods and feeds the wild animals that come to her yard. I'm not talking about just putting out a bird feeder, but she feeds opossums, raccoons, deer and other creatures, and gets a lot of pleasure out of doing so. It is not recommended...Read more
Living Together, Drifting Apart
Dear Annie: I've been married for over 25 years, and from the outside, it probably looks like we have a stable life. We raised kids together; we pay the bills; we attend family functions. But inside the walls of our home, I feel painfully alone.
My husband and I barely talk anymore unless it's about schedules, errands or something to do with ...Read more

Asking Eric: Spouse wants to reconcile with husband’s estranged sister
Dear Eric: My husband has a rocky past with his family. He is close with one sister and doesn't enjoy being with the other ("Lisa"), especially since she started dating (now married) a guy that is very awkward and makes our family get-togethers much less fun.
Additionally, their mother "Betsy" has been cut out of our lives, but not Lisa's. ...Read more
A Hidden Fortune, a Broken Heart
Dear Annie: I'm a 66-year-old woman, married to my second husband for nearly 17 years. Like many couples, we've had our share of struggles -- serious enough that we were close to separating. Wanting to save our marriage, I asked him to attend counseling with me, and to his credit, he agreed. We've been doing much better since then and have ...Read more
Millennial Life: When the Universe Draws Circles
For the first story I ever had published in a paper, I was almost run over by a mail truck. I'll tell you, the driver was none too pleased by a faux reporter jumping in front of his hood for a quote. I don't blame him. But here I am, more than 20 years later, writing for the same paper.
But I should back up. I spent my first year in college at ...Read more

Asking Eric: Neighbors’ trash habits cause a ruckus
Dear Eric: We live in big city where houses are very close together. My neighbors keep their trash bins in the driveway close to my front and side doors. They have three dogs, and the bin banging begins early, sometimes before seven in the morning.
My living room and kitchen are right next to their driveway, so I hear banging from trash lids ...Read more
Feeling Like a Third Wheel
Dear Annie: I've been dating a wonderful man for five years, and for the most part, our relationship is strong and loving. We don't live together, so we typically see each other just a couple of times a week, with more time together when we go on vacation. That time feels precious to me. But lately, I've found myself increasingly frustrated, ...Read more

Asking Eric: Husband’s old girlfriend keeps posting about him on social media
Dear Eric: An old high school girlfriend of my husband's (more than 40 years) creates social media posts about him and tags him, including photos of him or of the two of them together. In my husband’s defense, he has always responded or reacted appropriately with only a short neutral comment or reaction.
On our shared desktop one day, I was ...Read more
Sisterhood on Shaky Ground
Dear Annie: I've been struggling with my relationship with my older sister for some time now. Unfortunately, I have little time to pursue counseling, and finding an available, competent therapist in my area is difficult.
My older sister hosts the annual holiday dinners, which I used to enjoy and even help out with. But over the last few years...Read more

Asking Eric: Partner is always rude to neighbors
Dear Eric: My partner and I (35 years) are fortunate to have multiple residences. We have always “lived together apart.” It’s unconventional, but it works for us. My primary residence is in a large urban condominium building and his is rural in a small town. We’re always together on weekends (we alternate the destination) but apart ...Read more
Promises Made, Promises Broken
Dear Annie: My husband had a period of infidelity. He met a co-worker, and I was sick with mold poisoning. I wasn't giving him the attention I normally did. He said he found in her what I wasn't giving him. He told me about her but refused to stop seeing her, swearing they were only friends.
I tried to be friends with her only to find that ...Read more

Asking Eric: Aunt wants information about adopted niece’s birth mother
Dear Eric: Twenty-six years ago, my mother worked with a married woman who was pregnant with her fourth child but couldn't afford to add another child to her family. My sister and husband had a son and wanted a daughter. My mom arranged for the two women to meet, and my sister adopted the baby.
For some reason, unbeknownst to the rest of the ...Read more
Caught Between Parents
Dear Annie: My parents have been in a rocky marriage for as long as I can remember. I'm 16, and my brother is 20 and away at college. My dad has left and come back a few times, and now he's telling my mom again that he's done and wants her to move out. She's heartbroken, and it's really hard to watch. I've seen her cry more in the past few ...Read more
Single File: Matchmaking Conditions
Listen up, because you never know when it will happen to you. Your dear friend lets you know she has just unearthed the most wonderful hunk mankind has ever created, and she knows for sure he's just right for you! You must meet him, she says, searching your eyes for a response.
That's the scenario -- could happen anytime -- for which I most ...Read more

Ask Dating Coach Erika: What do I do when his place is a pigsty?
As always, dating can sometimes feel like a conglomeration of awkward situations, ones we have no idea how to deal with.
I stand by my advice that I give often: I don’t want you to be scared of talking to the very person you supposedly like so much. If they’re a true partner, it will feel like a safe landing place for your concerns and ...Read more

Ask Anna: My partner won't sleep next to me anymore -- what should I do?
Dear Anna,
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and recently moved in together. Everything was going great until we started sharing a bed regularly. He claims that my breathing keeps him awake at night — not snoring, just my normal breathing sounds. At first I thought he was joking, but he's completely serious.
He's started ...Read more
Millennial Life: Dishing Up What's Needed
Sometimes a reply has to stew. There's the meat of an argument and the vegetables of barbs that soften as the pot simmers over the flames of anger. The flavors shift with time. What first tasted like an insult might mellow into something, even just the imagined context I build for myself of the person on the other side of the screen, like ...Read more
Single File: A Kid's-Eye View
DEAR SUSAN: I've been reading a lot of letters in your column about child support. How about a kid's perspective? My dad never sees me. Why should I want to see him? He owes my siblings and me thousands of dollars' worth of food, clothing, medical treatment, etc. I'm not complaining about apartments that don't have carpet or having to watch ...Read more
Milllennial Life: The Script is Ours to Write
I had a frilly pink dress in second grade that I only wore a handful of times. There are some photos of me striking some sharp poses in our backyard, but after I outgrew that dress, I didn't follow up with any similarly typical frilly costumes of girlhood. As I grew, I went with comfort over style for a long time -- and some might say even to ...Read more
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